gender therapists

The problem with gatekeeping

It might be surprising that as someone who is concerned about unnecessary gender transitions, I also oppose the gatekeeping system as it currently stands. For those who are unaware, the “gatekeeping system” is the process by which letters from therapists are required for transgender people to proceed with hormone therapy, or genital surgery. This process has become steadily more relaxed in recent years, as the “informed consent” model has become more popular, at least for hormone therapy. This system causes more harm than good for several reasons:

There is no gate to keep

There is no point in guarding a gate when there is a large hole in the wall next to it. There are always going to be therapists that are willing to write letters to anyone, and doctors that are willing to prescribe hormones to people without therapist letters. People can simply find out about these providers through word of mouth, and go to them if they want, at least in most major cities.

There are no evidence-based criteria for gatekeeping

The ostensible function of gatekeeping is to determine whether a person is an appropriate candidate for treatment, and to prevent those who are inappropriate candidates from having treatment. When I went to see a therapist about these issues, I was prescribed hormone therapy after just 2 sessions! Years later I was quite angry about that, as I thought of it as malpractice, and that my problems could have been avoided if it wasn’t for that. Then when I began to study to become a therapist, I was shocked to discover these criteria don’t exist at all! I attended four different trainings on therapy for trans people, and there were no criteria for evaluation discussed! There was a lot of discussion on cultural competence, and the issues that commonly arise, which is good, but no criteria for evaluation. Neither the DSM-V or the WPATH standards of care contain such criteria. The DSM-V criteria essentially state that someone has to be uncomfortable with their gender for at least 6 months, and the new WPATH standards expressly state that “Psychotherapy is not an absolute requirement for hormone therapy and surgery”. This means that therapists either use no criteria, or arbitrary criteria, both of which are problematic.

The use of no criteria or arbitrary criteria are both problematic

The use of no criteria is problematic, because it creates a kind of false endorsement of a person’s trans identity. I have heard several people argue to unsympathetic family members that they are “really trans” because their therapist has “diagnosed them with GID / Gender Dysphoria”. I used the same argument with my family when I first transitioned. This can choose to erase doubts in people’s minds about their gender and help to push them into transition. When as mentioned above, the diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria only means that one is distressed by some aspect of their gender, which they already knew, or they wouldn’t be seeing this therapist at all! If we lack diagnostic criteria, we should neither endorse nor oppose transgender identity and be honest about that fact.

The use of arbitrary criteria is also problematic. These arbitrary criteria are often based on gender stereotypes. Some criteria that were used in the past for MTF transsexualism include whether the person was exclusively attracted to men, or wore dresses and skirts. There were even male therapists that chose to determine whether their clients were “really women” based on whether the therapist was sexually attracted to her!

These arbitrary criteria lead clients that want treatment to simply lie about fitting these arbitrary criteria in order to get what they want. Besides being wasteful and unnecessary, this undermines any potential therapeutic relationship as the clients don’t feel safe in telling the truth to their therapists. Fortunately, this is happening less and less.

Gatekeeping creates a dual relationship which prevents healing

Dual relationships (when a therapist has to play multiple roles with the same client) are frowned upon in psychotherapy, although it is recognized they are sometimes unavoidable. When the therapist has to play the role of the gatekeeper it creates an immediate conflict. As gatekeeper, the therapist should be playing an evaluatory role, while as therapist they should be playing a healing role. In order to create a good therapeutic relationship conductive to healing, the client should feel safe, open and free to express what is on their mind. If the client wants something from the therapist, this will not occur, and the client will censor themselves acting as an impediment to healing.

This is doubly important in the case of trauma, where the client’s being in control is part of the healing. Part of trauma is not being in control of what happens to you, so being in control of the pace and the choice of whether to explore the trauma is important to healing. The gatekeeper relationship creates another situation where the client does not control things and this can add to the trauma rather than heal the trauma. People might disagree as to whether trauma plays a role in transgender identity formation, but almost everyone would agree that there is a lot of trauma in the community, and people in need of healing.

Many in the transgender community distrust the therapeutic community in part because of this issue. This prevents people from getting the healing they need, instead they see the therapist as an obstacle in the way of what they want.

Possible alternatives

The movement towards pure informed consent also creates problems and may lead to unnecessary transitions. A possible alternative would be to include a therapy requirement for transition, but allow the client free choice to participate in hormone or surgical treatment after therapy. This would prevent some of the problems with the gatekeeping system. However, even this would be difficult to implement because there really is no more gate as referenced above.

Applying general psychological principles to gender issues

One of the problems that contribute to unclear psychological thinking on gender issues, is that it is treated as a special case of psychology. For whatever reason, general psychological thinking goes out the window when dealing with gender issues. There is already well-established thinking on issues such as identity, trauma, dysphoria, narratives, and sexuality. Many of the ideas I will present are derived from taking a step back and applying these general ideas to the issue of gender dysphoria. What is healthy for those without gender issues is also healthy for those with gender issues. General principles of psychological health must be applied to these issues. All of these things are interconnected.

This often does not happen in the case of gender issues. Gender dysphoria is seen as a specialized field in the world of psychology. This means that people dealing with these issues are referred to specialized gender therapists. Gender therapists are generally very thoughtful and caring people. However, the gender issues are generally treated as separate from other issues. In particular, trauma seems to be correlated with transgender identity formation, yet trauma is often seen as having nothing to do with gender identity, both by gender therapists and the trans community. Many people that have retransitioned have cited trauma as a key factor in their transition and felt their gender therapist did not see it as relevant. It is not as simple as trauma causes gender dysphoria, but it does play a role. Biological and cultural factors seem to play a role as well.

In the psychology series on this blog I will expand upon these topics further. By working through my trauma and studying psychology I was eventually able to reclaim a male identity, which was not a possibility expressed by anyone during my transition journey. I am not against transition, as I do think it is right for some people. I also think there are people who transition and don’t need to, and that the psychological community is contributing to this. It is a complicated issue.